As I got older, family and friends would say things like, “Oh, you should try a dating site for people with disabilities.” They meant well, thinking it would be easy for me to relate to someone who understood what I was going through. I heard this message that there’s no way an able-bodied guy could ever fall for me, so I should just stick to “my people.” Did they mean that? How many times has it been the other way around on TV or in movies, where a woman in a wheelchair falls in love with an able-bodied male and it's some unrequited-love situation?Why is it so hard to believe that women with disabilities could be in a relationship with an able-bodied person?
In junior high, I'd fill pages and pages in my journal with the same few questions: Why did my disability seem like such a big deal? In that moment, I felt like I was standing out for all the wrong reasons. The main character is a paraplegic who falls in love with an able-bodied woman.
‘My friend who is also in a wheelchair was really made up with the comments.’ Jack’s now planning to meet up with one of the girls who reached out, after getting to know her over social media.
‘I was stunned with the amount of people saying how good looking I was. ‘I’ve had a lot of girls inboxing me since saying, “it doesn’t matter about your wheelchair, you’re really hot”.
His Facebook was flooded with comments from women calling him ‘hot’ and ‘gorgeous’, and he’s been inundated with offers of dates.
‘Just because someone is a wheelchair doesn’t make them any different,’ wrote one woman.This sends the message that a disability is your whole life, but this couldn’t be farther from the truth.