There's one fairly common denominator among the responses: teach your child appropriate boundaries without making them feel ashamed. She has promised them she won't come in without knocking, and she always waits for them to say, "Come in." This seems like a respectful approach, and one that will likely build trust in her family.
According to the University of Michigan's Development and Behavior Resources program, the vast majority of kids discover their genitals and the pleasure they can bring by age 6.
Drake says there are two main techniques of addressing the issue: Cutting yourself off cold turkey, or the “harm reduction” method, which entails trimming your habit while still allowing yourself the occasional five-knuckle shuffle.
You could attempt either on your own, but if you fail, seeing a therapist or sex addiction counselor could help you craft a smarter game plan, says Drake.
It was at that point that I stopped her and said, and god does not condone masterbation.
She looked at me in shock and I said "our priest at school said that if we masterbate we would grow hair on our palms and everyone would know what you were up to" Looking back knowing what I know now i wonder if he was just lost and thinking up his own rules or have any of you been told this too? I feel my experiences were that they taught us with scaring us and we were afraid to do virtually anything and i had a fear for a long time that if i ever did anything wrong i would go to hell.
I am also interested in hearing what others were told when growing up and if it was a generation thing (i'm 32) as a child i used to go to Sunday school every Sunday and church once a month.
“However often you masturbate, it’s not a problem until it starts affecting your life in negative ways,” Drake explains.Many parents find it superawkward when their kids start masturbating, but it's not only normal, it's healthy. While discussions seem to revolve mostly around boys and girls who are in the 10 to 13 range, whatever age your child is at when she or he makes this discovery is the time to start discussing when and where this behavior is appropriate.