If you are serious about finding a permanent 'plus one,' drop the desperation and find your confidence.You may think that is easier said than done, but all it takes is reminding yourself that your goods are worth their sticker price and you don't have to discount them for anyone.Before you can find the right man to bake cookies with and watch romantic comedies on a rainy Sunday afternoon, it takes realizing that you are better off alone than trapped in a relationship with Mr. Once they do, it is as if their date has done something for them and they instantly move up one, maybe two stages, on the clinger scale.All of a sudden, the pressure is on for this date to turn into a mate, regardless of personal interests or compatibility.
Not only must we face the same plights and perils of the hetero single soldiers, but we must also face the cold reality of a much smaller dating pool, our exes dating other exes and an unrealistic image of what it is to be shirtless.
Well, whatever position you want to assume is your call; just don't be worrying about if he calls you after. Luckily, being HIV-positive doesn't make you very special in the gay community anymore.
Substitute your status for any other trait or characteristic that invokes insecurity in a person, and the playing field is virtually leveled.
Is it t because you have not found someone because of your status?
Is it because you are afraid of disclosure, or because you have not found someone you like?
The courage to live positively arises from the way you view yourself.