I believe that God pairs us up with people that complement the gifts, talents, and personalities that He has given us – if we let Him. The guys I dated before I began dating my husband were not all bad guys. We genuinely cared about each other and had fun together.But in each relationship there were things that didn’t feel quite right.Did those caring, sensitive, funny, godly men really exist?For instance, one guy that I dated was a very nice guy.Since I had not done such a great job of choosing relationships on my own, I decided to let God choose the next one.I wouldn’t even consider dating again until I had sought His will about the person and the relationship.I’ve read many books about relationships and Christian dating. His views helped me establish my own standards regarding marriage.I decided that I wanted nothing less than God’s best for me. It means if you have doubts about the relationship, if your significant other doesn’t treat you with the upmost respect, if you argue more than you get along, if you constantly find yourself defending him or her to your friends, then end it.
Don’t get me wrong, you could probably make your current relationship work.In some relationships, I found myself compromising some of my values to be more in line with that guy’s.In other relationships, I began to think that some of the things I had wanted in a husband were perhaps more wishful thinking than things that could actually be.It was after this that God began unfolding the events that led me to start dating Matt, the man that would become my husband.
We had met in college and built a solid friendship through the years, but I had not considered him in a romantic way (although he repeatedly let me know that he was somewhat interested in me).Later on, when I prayed about the possibility of marriage, God answered that prayer clearly too. It’s not that my husband and I never disagree, or that we do not get on each other’s nerves periodically, but married life is so much simpler when you know that this is the person that God led you to.