But then, does the gap shrink even more or grow bigger?Does the gap look larger or smaller between someone who is age 65 and someone who is age 80? With this gap, no one is robbing the cradle, and no one is worrying about whether one person wants to have kids, or not!Related: Why Young, Attractive Women Marry Rich, Old Guys We have almost nothing in common, but I love that.He is different than my friends in a good way and he helps me realise I need to focus on my career more after I graduate.In fact, I have several friends in their 40s who are married to men in their 60s and life is grand!(I can't think of any men I know who are in their 40s and married to women in their 60s, but I'm sure life is grand for them too! It seems like there is that period of time where the perception of an age gap gets smaller. The different between age 30 and age 45 isn't as big!But relationships are more than just movies and dinners, and moonlight walks on the beach. Other research suggests that the ideal gap in relationships is 4.4 years, and divorced people tend to have a larger disparity in subsequent marriages. Young people usually pair up within their age group, as at that point in life their circle of communication is limited to people of about the same maturity. By then our circles of acquaintances grow to be more spread through generations, and personal values and life style become more important than how old the two partners are.
I guess that’s because he looks really young still and has all of his hair. ”—Deborah, 34 We Have Nothing In Common “I’m 21 and he’s 33. He has a house, I live in an apartment near campus.
He likes me because I keep things young, fresh, and really funny.” —Kara, 21 I Feel More Secure “Dating up is a good idea if you are looking for someone who is mature.
I like my current boyfriend, even though it has only been three months, because I feel safe, comfortable, and secure with him.
The research data may be surprising, but it makes sense.
When dating, we are more open to trying out new things, thus a wider gap we list as acceptable. We had very little to talk about or discuss, and never been very close. There was really nothing connecting us except our interest in each other.
Slowly our friendship evolved into more, and we’ve been dating for two years.